When I was young, in early 20s,
After living for seven days in silence
At Trappist monastery in Kentucky,
One of their elder monks died.
They dressed him in his work habit,
Plain, simple, black and white,
Coarse cloth, cross on chain around his neck,
Rugged, unpolished boots on feet.
Wrinkled hands folded on his chest–
Laid out for all the congregation
In small chapel, upon wooden bench.
Even now, the memory haunts me—
Not in a bad way, but oddly
Death of that old monk
Was a blessing, unsought but encountered,
Helped to change, redeem my ideas
Of what is best in life, of how to die,
Gives shape to how the dead
Should be given honor. Strangely,
I do not think I ever knew his name.
Of course, they did not embalm,
Though his body lay in front of chapel altar
At least two days before his service–
Readings from Good Book, a cappella chants,
Prayers offered by his band of brothers.
I do not recall that any tears were shed.
The chapel was full of monks, family,
Visitors, like me, who chose to attend.
At the end they picked up that
Old rugged wooden bench upon their shoulders,
Slowly circled high altar three times,
Incensed his body as they processed,
Exited outside through main door.
We each, alone, followed in absolute silence…
There, within fifty feet by the side of the church,
Was the graveyard, no tombstones above each grave,
Only simple wooden crosses with no names or dates.
A grave had been dug, six feet into dark Kentucky loam.
No coffin, no concrete vault to serve as tomb.
They wrapped his body in a clean white cotton sheet,
Encircled it with ropes and sang hymns
As they lowered lifeless body down into the ground.
After the rope was pulled up, brothers came close,
Each one sprinkled lime upon the body,
To help release it more quickly back to Mother Earth.
They shoveled dirt until the grave was full.
I stood there, looking, because how not to?
My own eyes filled with tears.
My breath was shallow, could not reach
Deep well of lungs, eyes open, taking in
The closing of this man’s final resting place.
Simple, sacred, dignified with quiet grace.
I was one of the last to depart,
Taking with me some mysterious lesson that
I’ve worn threadbare through the years.
This is the world. This is the world
From which we cannot run away.
And that Death is completely safe.